Fix unnecessary tablet resolver negative caching on pipe disconnects

[snaury]

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Description for reviewers

Fix in #20931 introduced a subtle bug with negative caching for tablets after a disconnect. This bug is subtle because this negative caching only triggers under heavy load and not observable otherwise. Avoid negative caching unless we got definitely negative/outdated response from state storage.

Support for #21053.

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ydbd stripped size	501 767 752 Bytes	501 768 520 Bytes	+768 Bytes	+0.000%

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